Walk, Run or Pump

100-0039_IMG-1024x768An important approach to grief work is exercise. There are amazing by-products from exercise that support a healthy grief journey.

Our bodies are amazingly made and work together in ways that help healing take place, given the chance.

You will likely feel weak when you are grieving, especially in the days following the death of a loved one or friend. This is a normal reaction to missing someone important in your life. You are trying to figure out the emotional detachment toward a person who is no longer present. It’s not an easy journey and affects not just your spirit but your body as well.

With proper diet, adding the nutrition that you need, a disciplined exercise regime can help you in your grief journey as well.

Research shows that exercise helps you to sort out your emotions more effectively, to think more clearly, to improve your self-regard, and to help you mix back into society more quickly. If you form this good habit forever, you will of course become physically fit in addition to all the other benefits.

When I went through the loss of my first wife, my kinesiologist-daughter told me to get out and exercise. I was shocked at the difference it made in my attitude and ability to deal with the intense grief I was feeling.

What about you? When you are going through loss and see what happens – why not try to walk, run or pump? You may be surprised at the results. No better time to start than as the calendar turns to 2015.


Making Healthy Choices

healthy-food-817x1024What food you choose to put into your body affects your health.

The emotional turmoil of grief makes you vulnerable in a variety of ways. Why not ask another person to be your grief friend? Someone who can be honest with you about the decisions that you make in your volatile state?

What you choose to make a part of your grief journey is important as it will affect your emotional health and impact your future growth.


I have counseled many people who have made poor choices during their grief journey, which have resulted in painful consequences.

Bad habits can quickly turn into unhealthy decisions.  People say, “Wow, has that person ever changed. I have never known him/her to be that way or behave in that manner.”  Grief can be intense and move us in directions that lead to unhealthy consequences.

Connor, my grandson, can either have healthy snacks or ones that aren’t as good for his growing body.  His mom decides to give him good stuff to eat. And he loves it.

Having a good friend to keep you honest and accountable is a very smart decision to make as a grieving person.

It’s the healthy choice!